Sunday, September 23, 2012

No Soccer Again - Step Mom Stories

Against my better judgement I decided to assistant coach my stepson's soccer team.  It was a beautiful fall weekend this past weekend.  We planned on attending my stepson's soccer game on Saturday and then heading to my inlaws.  The soccer game wasn't until 4pm so we waited around all day. I had plenty of cleaning to do so that kept me busy.  My girls oldest daughter who is 2 was very excited to see her brother play soccer.  She wanted to wear her cheerleading outfit to cheer him on.  I got her all dressed up and even found pom poms for her to bring.  We loaded everyone into the car and headed to the field.  We got there early so I could help set up.  Finally 4pm rolled around and my step son was no where to be found.  My husband called his ex wife to find out if he was coming but she didn't awnser.  At this point we figured he wasn't coming but I couldn't leave because I volunteered to help out.  I had to stay and coach OTHER kids.  I don't mind helping out but I would have loved if my stepson was there.

After the game we got home and my husband emailed his ex-wife to find out why he wasn't there because we have a court order that requires her to take him to his actives.  Unfortunately this is not the first time this has happened.  She doesn't take him to any of his activities so we had to go to court to ensure she does.  However, if anyone is familiar with the court system that doesn't mean that she actually has to follow it.  She doesn't do anything that she is suppose to and knows that we won't take her back to court all the time.  My husband works for himself which means if he has to go to court to fight every little thing she does wrong, he doesn't make any money for the day.

We finally received a response back:

"You sign him up for too may activities.  He does activities all week long and it ok if he misses a couple of games."  We found this interesting since the only acitivies he has during the week is soccer practice and gymnastics for a total of 2 hours for the whole week.

Her response when we told her that she is contempt for not taking him:
"The judge only mean for 1 season not 2 seasons of soccer. "

It was at this point that my blood started to boil but I realized yet again you can't argue with stupid.  I have tried over and over to ge her to understand how she is affecting her son but she doesn't care.  Unfortunately her social calendar is more important.

We will have to go back to court soon to deal with this but really dread doing so.

Friday, May 6, 2011

How it Started

My story from the beginning…………….

My husband and I met 4 years ago on I have to be honest it was all by chance. I had decided to join after ending a 6 year relationship. I figured I had nothing to lose so I went out on a couple of dates. I wasn’t having much luck and was thinking about cancelling when I saw my Mark’s(future husband) profile. I have to admit I was instantly attracted to him and after quickly reading his profile contacted him. Little did I know that he was actually cancelling his account that week and hadn’t been on in weeks when I contacted him. We met for drinks later that week and ended up talking for hours. We immediately clicked and made plans for another date.

On our 3rd date the topic of his son came up. I have to admit that when I read his profile I knew he was divorced but had no idea that he had a child. I honestly probably wouldn’t have contacted him if I had known that he had a child. However, it was too late because I already like him a lot and figured lets just see what happens before I worry about that.

He told me that he has a 1 ½ year old son. He was married for a total of 5 months before he filed for divorce. He told me getting married to his ex wife was the worst mistake of his life. She got pregnant and he was trying to do the right thing but quickly learned that marrying her was not the right thing to do.

He told me that he wanted to be honest with me about his ex wife and that situation so that I knew what I was getting into. However, I don’t think anything could have prepared me for what I was getting into. Over the next year I fell in love with my husband and couldn’t imagine my life without him but at the same time prayed daily that my life wouldn’t have to include his past….aka his ex wife.

How many other women have fallen for a guy but wished he didn’t have any baggage? Are there any men out there that don’t come with some kind of baggage? The way I look at is we all have baggage

I have a lot to write about the famous ex wife but I will save that for another post because there is a lot to write.