Friday, May 6, 2011

How it Started

My story from the beginning…………….

My husband and I met 4 years ago on Match.com. I have to be honest it was all by chance. I had decided to join Match.com after ending a 6 year relationship. I figured I had nothing to lose so I went out on a couple of dates. I wasn’t having much luck and was thinking about cancelling when I saw my Mark’s(future husband) profile. I have to admit I was instantly attracted to him and after quickly reading his profile contacted him. Little did I know that he was actually cancelling his account that week and hadn’t been on in weeks when I contacted him. We met for drinks later that week and ended up talking for hours. We immediately clicked and made plans for another date.

On our 3rd date the topic of his son came up. I have to admit that when I read his Match.com profile I knew he was divorced but had no idea that he had a child. I honestly probably wouldn’t have contacted him if I had known that he had a child. However, it was too late because I already like him a lot and figured lets just see what happens before I worry about that.

He told me that he has a 1 ½ year old son. He was married for a total of 5 months before he filed for divorce. He told me getting married to his ex wife was the worst mistake of his life. She got pregnant and he was trying to do the right thing but quickly learned that marrying her was not the right thing to do.

He told me that he wanted to be honest with me about his ex wife and that situation so that I knew what I was getting into. However, I don’t think anything could have prepared me for what I was getting into. Over the next year I fell in love with my husband and couldn’t imagine my life without him but at the same time prayed daily that my life wouldn’t have to include his past….aka his ex wife.

How many other women have fallen for a guy but wished he didn’t have any baggage? Are there any men out there that don’t come with some kind of baggage? The way I look at is we all have baggage

I have a lot to write about the famous ex wife but I will save that for another post because there is a lot to write.